Etiquette or No?

timnem70 · 01/13/2017, 04:33 PM

Live in an Apartment complex and while taking the trash out and going down the stairs I could clearly see across the little courtyard what I knew had to be reef lighting coming from a first floor apartment. And, As whomever rents this place lives on the first floor, I walked by and had a peek and clearly saw an aquarium.. yes, I played it cool and did a glance but it was nice from what I saw.
Sooo. After all that, my question is would it be cool if I went and knocked on his door sometime and say, " Yo! Saw your lighting and knew it was a reef tank, I have one too" show me yours and I'll show ya mine?" approach?
I'M not shy, I'll do it. Looked like a softy tank to me, saw a bunch of tentacles and ****.

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ComforablyNumb · 01/13/2017, 04:44 PM

"show me yours and I'll show ya mine?"

Just be sure he knows you're are talking about his aquarium.. and you should be good to go.

kuzko · 01/13/2017, 04:57 PM

Do it, go meet your new bff

windlasher · 01/13/2017, 04:59 PM

How do you know it's a HE? ��

tkeracer619 · 01/13/2017, 05:14 PM

Yeah, I'd just strike up a convo and if they are comfortable with you coming in they will invite you.

Funny story, we have a lot of kids come by for Halloween, usually go through 50+ lbs of candy... This year one kid (probably 4 or 5) sees my coral/invert QT which is in the entrance of the house and says "ohhhhhh aquarium, where are there fish?" My girlfriend tells him "they're not in that one, they're in the aquariums down stairs". He says "ok" walks in and starts to go down the stairs

. We laughed about it but quickly redirected him back to his parents. Told them to come back anytime for a tour

Digitalelectric · 01/13/2017, 06:47 PM

Heck when I was living in an apartment with my 125 people knocked once a week asking if I had a spaceship in my living room. I was always pleased to show off my corals. One time a cop that lived in the building walked by me and with a stern face said whatcha growing up there? When I said corals he just stared at me for a few seconds and replied neat...I love coral reefs!

karimwassef · 01/13/2017, 06:56 PM

It's like courtship. Be polite and considerate and invite them to yours (vs wanting to get in theirs). Ha ha ha... couldn't resist.

Actually, we're a weird bunch- reefkeepers. When we recognize one of our own, we're usually happy to connect.

WatDatThing · 01/13/2017, 07:08 PM

You guys are neighbors. There is nothing wrong with introducing yourself and even mention that you saw the fish tank and you have the same interest in the hobby. Generally speaking, hobbyist like to share with others.

Sonyardo · 01/13/2017, 07:19 PM

Just go an put your nose up against their window and they will come out and introduce themselves

Maritimer · 01/13/2017, 07:24 PM

You don't even have to say you peeked in their window . . . you just recognized the color of a "reef-beacon" from afar.

~B.

FamilyTank · 01/13/2017, 07:31 PM

Edit your signature and he/she may read it here and be on the look out for you to come knocking.

scooters reef · 01/13/2017, 07:37 PM

I'd knock on the door!!!

I was in the Navy for over 13 years and no matter where I was, once I was settled off base I'd knock on any door close and when they answered the door just say "I hope I'm not bothering you, but I saw an actinic glow so had to stop and say hello"

LOL, in my case it often turned out to be someone transferring soon and I gained another tank to pass on again myself though. I think I drove my Ex nuts.

Breadman03 · 01/13/2017, 11:33 PM

Just don't drop off a baggie of kalk unannounced.

Mrs. Music · 01/14/2017, 04:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Sonyardo

Just go an put your nose up against their window and they will come out and introduce themselves

I like this idea.

Mrs. Music · 01/14/2017, 04:50 AM

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Originally Posted by tkeracer619

Yeah, I'd just strike up a convo and if they are comfortable with you coming in they will invite you.

Funny story, we have a lot of kids come by for Halloween, usually go through 50+ lbs of candy... This year one kid (probably 4 or 5) sees my coral/invert QT which is in the entrance of the house and says "ohhhhhh aquarium, where are there fish?" My girlfriend tells him "they're not in that one, they're in the aquariums down stairs". He says "ok" walks in and starts to go down the stairs

. We laughed about it but quickly redirected him back to his parents. Told them to come back anytime for a tour

we get some that kinda stuff at halloween too, but it is usually a parent we have to redirect.

roli112 · 01/14/2017, 11:11 AM

Show up with a frag

davocean · 01/14/2017, 11:37 AM

I don't think I've met a reefer yet that did not like to show off their tank, at an appropriate time.
I would mention the obvious recognition of lights in passing, it's always good to have reefer friends close by, in case of emergency, and it's nice to know someone that actually gets what you are talking about most of the time.

timnem70 · 01/14/2017, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by windlasher

How do you know it's a HE? 😄

Touche' , alas, I do not. It's very minimalist inside from the quickie glance I got so im just mali.gan assumption.

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timnem70 · 01/14/2017, 11:57 AM

Reef beacon. Trade mark that ****.

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ericarenee · 01/14/2017, 01:45 PM

This has happened to us a few times .. We Live on a dead end street that is connected to what is called Louisville Loop.. (https://louisvilleky.gov/government/louisville-loop)

We get people walking past our house on the street going to there and walking to the parks. In The front of our home is a huge Bay Picture window and Our 7 Foot Long tank is directly across the room.From standing on the street and looking at the front of our house you can NOT MISS Seeing the tank. it lines up perfect with the window and looks like the window is actually the tank. ( reminds me i should take a picture ) So i have had two neighbors and a total stranger ask me about the Window Aquarium... Our UPS FED-EX guy mail man and everyone else always ask about it...

I Would spark a conversation with the neighbor outside rather then knock on the Door.. Some might find that creepy not realizing how visible the tank is .

siliconinja · 01/14/2017, 03:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ComforablyNumb

"show me yours and I'll show ya mine?"

Just be sure he knows you're are talking about his aquarium.. and you should be good to go.

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Breadman03 · 01/15/2017, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ericarenee

( reminds me i should take a picture )

Sorta patiently waiting...

gone fishin · 01/15/2017, 06:45 AM

When we lived in Connecticut we lived on a busy street. Occasionally I would get people stopping and saying I see the blue glow. Made some pretty good reefing friends from that.

johnike · 01/15/2017, 06:53 AM

Surveilance is a career, stalking is a crime ~ Bart in the Lounge.

kmbyrnes · 01/15/2017, 08:46 AM

Our back neighbor met us at the mailbox and asked about the renovations we were doing ( different story ). We invited her over and when she saw the tanks, her comment was 'We thought you were growing plants' !
Knock on the door and say you couldn't help noticing the glow and tell them you are a reefer too!

01/13/2017, 04:33 PM	#1
timnem70 Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2015 Posts: 462	Etiquette or No? Live in an Apartment complex and while taking the trash out and going down the stairs I could clearly see across the little courtyard what I knew had to be reef lighting coming from a first floor apartment. And, As whomever rents this place lives on the first floor, I walked by and had a peek and clearly saw an aquarium.. yes, I played it cool and did a glance but it was nice from what I saw. Sooo. After all that, my question is would it be cool if I went and knocked on his door sometime and say, " Yo! Saw your lighting and knew it was a reef tank, I have one too" show me yours and I'll show ya mine?" approach? I'M not shy, I'll do it. Looked like a softy tank to me, saw a bunch of tentacles and ****. Sent from my SM-G930V using Tapatalk

01/13/2017, 04:57 PM	#3
kuzko Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2016 Posts: 147	Do it, go meet your new bff __________________ "Wah wah wah wah wah wah wah wah wah" - Charlie Browns teacher I've lost count of how many tanks I have so I guess just Insert generic tank specs here

01/13/2017, 04:59 PM	#4
windlasher Registered Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 504	How do you know it's a HE? �� __________________ --- PLEASE HELP SAVE THE DOLPHINS In case we run out of chicken. ---

01/13/2017, 05:14 PM	#5
tkeracer619 Registered Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Westminster, CO Posts: 17,289	Yeah, I'd just strike up a convo and if they are comfortable with you coming in they will invite you. Funny story, we have a lot of kids come by for Halloween, usually go through 50+ lbs of candy... This year one kid (probably 4 or 5) sees my coral/invert QT which is in the entrance of the house and says "ohhhhhh aquarium, where are there fish?" My girlfriend tells him "they're not in that one, they're in the aquariums down stairs". He says "ok" walks in and starts to go down the stairs . We laughed about it but quickly redirected him back to his parents. Told them to come back anytime for a tour __________________ Hobby Experience: 9200ish gallons, 26 skimmers, and a handful of Kent Scrapers. Current Tank: Vortech Powered 600G SPS Tank w/ 100gal frag tank & 100g Sump. RK2-RK10 Skimmer. ReefAngel. Radium 20k.

01/13/2017, 06:56 PM	#7
karimwassef Registered Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Dallas, TX Posts: 11,033	It's like courtship. Be polite and considerate and invite them to yours (vs wanting to get in theirs). Ha ha ha... couldn't resist. Actually, we're a weird bunch- reefkeepers. When we recognize one of our own, we're usually happy to connect. __________________ Failure isn't an option It's a requirement. 660g 380inwall+280smp/surge S/L/Soft/Maxima/RBTA/Clown/Chromis/Anthias/Tang/Mandarin/Jawfish/Goby/Wrasse/D'back. DIY 12' Skimmer ActuatedSurge ConcreteScape

01/13/2017, 04:44 PM	#2
ComforablyNumb Registered Member Join Date: Mar 2016 Location: New Brunswick Canada Posts: 627	"show me yours and I'll show ya mine?" Just be sure he knows you're are talking about his aquarium.. and you should be good to go.

01/13/2017, 06:47 PM	#6
Digitalelectric Registered Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 422	Heck when I was living in an apartment with my 125 people knocked once a week asking if I had a spaceship in my living room. I was always pleased to show off my corals. One time a cop that lived in the building walked by me and with a stern face said whatcha growing up there? When I said corals he just stared at me for a few seconds and replied neat...I love coral reefs!

01/13/2017, 07:08 PM	#8
WatDatThing Registered Member Join Date: Dec 2016 Posts: 830	You guys are neighbors. There is nothing wrong with introducing yourself and even mention that you saw the fish tank and you have the same interest in the hobby. Generally speaking, hobbyist like to share with others.

01/13/2017, 07:19 PM	#9
Sonyardo Registered Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: OC California Posts: 522	Just go an put your nose up against their window and they will come out and introduce themselves

01/13/2017, 07:24 PM	#10
Maritimer Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: SW Connecticut, U.S.A. Posts: 419	You don't even have to say you peeked in their window . . . you just recognized the color of a "reef-beacon" from afar. ~B. __________________ Because anything else ... is just a fishtank. Zoey's Reef has come to life! Zoas, 'shrooms and LPS of several sorts, CUC, dartfish, wrasses and others swim above the sand . . . Current Tank Info: Kingston & Zoey's Reef; 220g, Deltec skimmer, 2 MaxSpect Gyre x-50s, 2,500gph or so through the sump. SPS are surviving . . .

01/13/2017, 07:31 PM	#11
FamilyTank Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2016 Location: Downriver,Mi Posts: 226	Edit your signature and he/she may read it here and be on the look out for you to come knocking.

01/13/2017, 07:37 PM	#12
scooters reef Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Pensacola, FL Posts: 1,124	I'd knock on the door!!! I was in the Navy for over 13 years and no matter where I was, once I was settled off base I'd knock on any door close and when they answered the door just say "I hope I'm not bothering you, but I saw an actinic glow so had to stop and say hello" LOL, in my case it often turned out to be someone transferring soon and I gained another tank to pass on again myself though. I think I drove my Ex nuts. __________________ Current Tank: 270G Miracles (84x30x25)

01/13/2017, 11:33 PM	#13
Breadman03 New Old School Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Luzerne County, PA Posts: 3,293	Just don't drop off a baggie of kalk unannounced.

01/14/2017, 11:11 AM	#16
roli112 Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 298	Show up with a frag __________________ 180 gallon mixed reef Current Tank Info: 180g. mix reef

01/14/2017, 11:37 AM	#17
davocean Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 14,655	I don't think I've met a reefer yet that did not like to show off their tank, at an appropriate time. I would mention the obvious recognition of lights in passing, it's always good to have reefer friends close by, in case of emergency, and it's nice to know someone that actually gets what you are talking about most of the time. __________________ There's a fine line between owning your tank and your tank owning you! Current Tank Info: SCA 120g RR Starfire, Tunze silence 1073.02 return, 40g sump w/ fuge, SWC Extreme 160 cone skimmer,Geismann reflexx 4xT5, 2x Panorama Pro LED strips, Vortech MP40QD

01/14/2017, 11:57 AM	#19
timnem70 Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2015 Posts: 462	Reef beacon. Trade mark that ****. Sent from my SM-G930V using Tapatalk

01/14/2017, 01:45 PM	#20
ericarenee Registered Member Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Louisville Kentucky Posts: 3,110	This has happened to us a few times .. We Live on a dead end street that is connected to what is called Louisville Loop.. (https://louisvilleky.gov/government/louisville-loop) We get people walking past our house on the street going to there and walking to the parks. In The front of our home is a huge Bay Picture window and Our 7 Foot Long tank is directly across the room.From standing on the street and looking at the front of our house you can NOT MISS Seeing the tank. it lines up perfect with the window and looks like the window is actually the tank. ( reminds me i should take a picture ) So i have had two neighbors and a total stranger ask me about the Window Aquarium... Our UPS FED-EX guy mail man and everyone else always ask about it... I Would spark a conversation with the neighbor outside rather then knock on the Door.. Some might find that creepy not realizing how visible the tank is . __________________ 240+G Mixed BB Reef tank.. 350 G Marine Pond. And the expensive stuff that runs it. Chic's are for Chic's You silly men Go Fishing or something... Current Tank Info: 240= gal Reef /550 Gallon Saltwater pond 72 G Bay front Tropical aquarium

01/15/2017, 06:45 AM	#23
gone fishin Registered Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Wyocena Wi Posts: 6,936	When we lived in Connecticut we lived on a busy street. Occasionally I would get people stopping and saying I see the blue glow. Made some pretty good reefing friends from that. __________________ Tony Current Tank Info: 180gal DT, BM NAC77 skimmer,3 Maxspect razors, Maxspect Gyre 150, 30g QT

01/15/2017, 06:53 AM	#24
johnike Moved On Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Bureau County Illinois Posts: 5,406	Surveilance is a career, stalking is a crime ~ Bart in the Lounge.

01/15/2017, 08:46 AM	#25
kmbyrnes Registered Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Mesa AZ Posts: 2,055	Our back neighbor met us at the mailbox and asked about the renovations we were doing ( different story ). We invited her over and when she saw the tanks, her comment was 'We thought you were growing plants' ! Knock on the door and say you couldn't help noticing the glow and tell them you are a reefer too! __________________ 125g Mixed Reef 5/26/2015; 350 Butterfly Dominated FOWLR 11/26/2015 - 11/17/20217 & 07/31/18 to ??? ; 100g Mixed Reef 11/16/2013 to 06/16/2017 Current Tank Info: Too small