HELP!!! GF purposely poured Dish Soap in My Aquarium..Everything Dead! Need HELP - Page 3

Michael · 04/26/2009, 12:05 AM

well its a very bad shame that your aquarium has been wiped out, but its done and time to start again, best to wash all equipment in fresh water first to remove the soap, then soak it in vinegar for 24 hours, then wash it out again with fresh clean tap water.

then just start over, think about this, you can now add new rock and sand and alter the aquascape to a new set-up, im sure there were times you wished it looked different, well nows your chance, get the cycle out of the way and slowly re-stock.

chin up time to begin again

jbird69 · 04/26/2009, 12:14 AM

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Originally posted by Tswifty
Nah... this isn't Dr. Phil.

Ha ha! Too true. The thread already has shades of it. or maybe Springer.

Thats the last thing we'd want to see, I was kinda jesting to make a point.

The equipment (like everyone said) should certainly be re usable, and 2 1/2K is a good amount to build something awesome. You should do a tear down and build thread!

rlee81indy · 04/26/2009, 12:15 AM

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xxwake4lifexx · 04/26/2009, 12:25 AM

I'm sorry, but dump her a$$.

You don't mess with a man's reef tank. YOU JUST DON'T!

Tylt33 · 04/26/2009, 12:28 AM

Sounds like someone found themselves a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Get out. Now. Run.

Bluemermaidgirl · 04/26/2009, 01:28 AM

WHY Is everyone judging his relationship?? Seriously not your business and he is posting on an aquarium website not a dating one. He wants to save what he can and what he worked so hard for! Save the relationship advise. Dude I am sorry about your tank, hopefully you can save some of the stuff!

Michael · 04/26/2009, 01:43 AM

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Originally posted by Bluemermaidgirl
WHY Is everyone judging his relationship?? Seriously not your business and he is posting on an aquarium website not a dating one. He wants to save what he can and what he worked so hard for! Save the relationship advise. Dude I am sorry about your tank, hopefully you can save some of the stuff!

not everyone

my original post

well its a very bad shame that your aquarium has been wiped out, but its done and time to start again, best to wash all equipment in fresh water first to remove the soap, then soak it in vinegar for 24 hours, then wash it out again with fresh clean tap water.

then just start over, think about this, you can now add new rock and sand and alter the aquascape to a new set-up, im sure there were times you wished it looked different, well nows your chance, get the cycle out of the way and slowly re-stock.

chin up time to begin again

dc · 04/26/2009, 05:27 AM

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Originally posted by Bluemermaidgirl
WHY Is everyone judging his relationship?? Seriously not your business and he is posting on an aquarium website not a dating one. He wants to save what he can and what he worked so hard for! Save the relationship advise. Dude I am sorry about your tank, hopefully you can save some of the stuff!

It's kind of human nature. That and the anonymity of the Internet for the most part. Revenge is rarely ever sweet when it's plotted out. Moving on and having a great life without them usually is.

It does suck that someone would destroy something like that out of rage.

mustang51js · 04/26/2009, 06:07 AM

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Originally posted by Bluemermaidgirl
WHY Is everyone judging his relationship?? Seriously not your business and he is posting on an aquarium website not a dating one. He wants to save what he can and what he worked so hard for! Save the relationship advise. Dude I am sorry about your tank, hopefully you can save some of the stuff!

plus the part in his interests that says getting laid, i think the same but if i posted it and the misses read that i would be hearing about it,not saying he cheated but little things like that make people think,especially if there the jealous type, sorry about your tank,post a thread of the new build

Patrick12 · 04/26/2009, 06:13 AM

Obviously you need a new girlfriend. That kind of goes without saying, but anyone who would take an argument with you out on innocent creatures.....is the kind of woman that will one day kill you in your sleep. Either that, or she will do something else haneous that is really uncalled for. Surely you had something to do with her rage, but for her do do that is just nuts.

All the rock will need to be hosed off, vinegar bathed and I would also run it in a bin with some carbon as well.

Good luck with the restart.....on the tank and love life.

ksmith68114 · 04/26/2009, 06:48 AM

Expensive dishwasher!

Gooch79 · 04/26/2009, 07:08 AM

As another poster said you could go down the cruelty to animals road if there is a case of an unsympathetic official of some sort. I'd also be very wary until you get that money in your hand as well.

I had a situation with an ex where she was also pretty psycho and managed to take a lot of my things along with her own when she finally got out. Because I wasnt there during that time I didnt have any recourse to get my things back. So watch out.

As for your stuff... I am sure it has some value, I know if I lived near you I would probably take the stuff and clean it myself. I am sure you can find someone who will pay a small/decent amount for things that are perfectly fine but require some elbow grease.

joeychitwood · 04/26/2009, 07:14 AM

Back to the original question, I would recommend cleaning the tank and equipment with copious amounts of fresh water and vinegar rinses. Throw the sand. However, the live rock can be preserved as sterile base rock and reseeded with bacteria and critters over time by soaking it in bleach water for a couple of days, then rinsing the rock and soaking it in water and Amquel. You can save the rock structures you've already accumulated and buy some new pieces of LR to start the cultures. It would take some time, but you might save hundreds of dollars.

29Bubbles · 04/26/2009, 07:23 AM

Very sorry for your loss. That's just terrible.

I hope she's out of your life - anyone who could do that to animals is just not right in the head. Feel angry or jelous, but go jogging or play racket ball with that energy, don't kill things.

I'm a girl...and in the hobby... love it in fact... so we're not all bad.

kmf507 · 04/26/2009, 07:48 AM

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Originally posted by Freed
Pay more attention to HER next time instead of the tank.

Freed, your 3 or 4 posts on this thread are some of the most asinine things I have come across.

Not only do you pretend to be taking the high road, you have the audacity to suggest that the OP is at fault for what amounts to animal cruelty.

His girlfriend needs help, she chose to take action against something the OP really values, but did not care that the living things died as a result. There are underlying issues there, and it is obvious to anyone that she is not capable of being in a healthy relationship at this time.

Shame on you for your posts and your view.

Freed · 04/26/2009, 07:51 AM

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Originally posted by Freed
Not saying it's right.

Some people just don't know how to read

kmf507 · 04/26/2009, 07:54 AM

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Originally posted by Freed
Some people just don't know how to read

You can't be serious...you really have no clue how your posts come across or what you are saying to the OP, do you?

Sk8r · 04/26/2009, 07:56 AM

A person like that would've shot your dog or beat your kid because she was mad at you.

Get a gf who's got the moxie and the honesty to take her fight where the fight is, not pick on innocents while your back is turned. You can't ever trust somebody like that, no matter any other qualities.

Jeff · 04/26/2009, 08:05 AM

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Originally posted by Freed
Pay more attention to HER next time instead of the tank.

Because this was the very first post added to this thread which was useless and irresponsible, the fact that you have a history of passive aggressive posts which call people out and bate them, and the fact that you kept going down the same road in this thread with your so-called suggestions as to how everything was his fault is why you are taking a beating here. You didnt know his situation before hitting the submit button and were not helpful at all with his question. People can read. Look back to page one of this thread and read and you will see that your opinions dont help the OP out. We are in the new to the hobby forum with a member asking a legit question about what to do about a tank that was just ruined. He is looking for suggestions from mature members with insight on what to do about his reefing disaster.
I have tried to keep my mouth shut over the last few years with personel opinions that are unhelpful but this thread is derailed, now off topic, and not usefull. Hopefully the OP can take some of the suggestions about his aquarium and put them to use to move on with his hobby.
Water, garbage can, and time will be of help, not your Dr. Phil crap.
Sorry about loosing my cool, but what the heck? This is RC, not Oprah!

DgenR8 · 04/26/2009, 08:11 AM

Jeff · 04/26/2009, 08:14 AM

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Originally posted by DgenR8

Hi Larry

Sisterlimonpot · 04/26/2009, 08:35 AM

And Plus... I think the majority that's following this thread would love to see some pictures.

dc · 04/26/2009, 08:35 AM

What are you guys doing in here?

Freed · 04/26/2009, 08:41 AM

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Originally posted by Sisterlimonpot
And Plus... I think the majority that's following this thread would love to see some pictures.

And hear her side

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Originally posted by dc
What are you guys doing in here?

We see you ventured away from the 5th floor too?

DgenR8 · 04/26/2009, 08:44 AM

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Originally posted by dc
What are you guys doing in here?

I heard that there was a problem that might need to be banned.

04/26/2009, 12:05 AM	#51
Michael NTTH Rookie Help Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Gloucester, England,UK Posts: 7,808 Blog Entries: 6	well its a very bad shame that your aquarium has been wiped out, but its done and time to start again, best to wash all equipment in fresh water first to remove the soap, then soak it in vinegar for 24 hours, then wash it out again with fresh clean tap water. then just start over, think about this, you can now add new rock and sand and alter the aquascape to a new set-up, im sure there were times you wished it looked different, well nows your chance, get the cycle out of the way and slowly re-stock. chin up time to begin again __________________ Don't be afraid to ask questions, we in the new to the hobby are here to help you [For My Tank Spec,Photo Album,Articles and website, click on my name] MY Very Kindest and Warmest Regards , MIKE Current Tank Info: I have a 92 gal Corner Tank, and way too many pieces of equipment to list really, (proud member of the reef central corner club)

04/26/2009, 12:25 AM	#54
xxwake4lifexx Josh Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Riverside Posts: 269	I'm sorry, but dump her a$$. You don't mess with a man's reef tank. YOU JUST DON'T! __________________ Every man dies. Not every man really lives. - William Wallace Current Tank Info: 29g mixed reef: monti cap, frogspawn, GSP, xenia, candy cane coral, zoanthids, mushrooms, pipe organ

04/26/2009, 01:28 AM	#56
Bluemermaidgirl Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Naperville Posts: 31	WHY Is everyone judging his relationship?? Seriously not your business and he is posting on an aquarium website not a dating one. He wants to save what he can and what he worked so hard for! Save the relationship advise. Dude I am sorry about your tank, hopefully you can save some of the stuff! __________________ "An eye for an eye, leaves the whole world blind" Current Tank Info: 50 Gal Reef Aquarium ( no fish yet )

04/26/2009, 06:13 AM	#60
Patrick12 Crypt Assassin Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 761	Obviously you need a new girlfriend. That kind of goes without saying, but anyone who would take an argument with you out on innocent creatures.....is the kind of woman that will one day kill you in your sleep. Either that, or she will do something else haneous that is really uncalled for. Surely you had something to do with her rage, but for her do do that is just nuts. All the rock will need to be hosed off, vinegar bathed and I would also run it in a bin with some carbon as well. Good luck with the restart.....on the tank and love life. __________________ The enemy of good enough is BETTER!! Current Tank Info: 60 gallon reef and 150 reef

04/26/2009, 07:08 AM	#62
Gooch79 Penguins Fan Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Seymour, CT Posts: 505	As another poster said you could go down the cruelty to animals road if there is a case of an unsympathetic official of some sort. I'd also be very wary until you get that money in your hand as well. I had a situation with an ex where she was also pretty psycho and managed to take a lot of my things along with her own when she finally got out. Because I wasnt there during that time I didnt have any recourse to get my things back. So watch out. As for your stuff... I am sure it has some value, I know if I lived near you I would probably take the stuff and clean it myself. I am sure you can find someone who will pay a small/decent amount for things that are perfectly fine but require some elbow grease. __________________ Brett Current Tank Info: 90g Oceanic Tech softie tank with 40g sump/refug

04/26/2009, 12:28 AM	#55
Tylt33 Registered Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Chico, California Posts: 1,755	Sounds like someone found themselves a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder. Get out. Now. Run.

04/26/2009, 06:48 AM	#61
ksmith68114 Registered Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Omaha, NE Posts: 16	Expensive dishwasher!

04/26/2009, 07:14 AM	#63
joeychitwood Schrödinger's Mod Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 3,488	Back to the original question, I would recommend cleaning the tank and equipment with copious amounts of fresh water and vinegar rinses. Throw the sand. However, the live rock can be preserved as sterile base rock and reseeded with bacteria and critters over time by soaking it in bleach water for a couple of days, then rinsing the rock and soaking it in water and Amquel. You can save the rock structures you've already accumulated and buy some new pieces of LR to start the cultures. It would take some time, but you might save hundreds of dollars.

04/26/2009, 07:23 AM	#64
29Bubbles Registered Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Minneapolis MN Posts: 3	Very sorry for your loss. That's just terrible. I hope she's out of your life - anyone who could do that to animals is just not right in the head. Feel angry or jelous, but go jogging or play racket ball with that energy, don't kill things. I'm a girl...and in the hobby... love it in fact... so we're not all bad.

04/26/2009, 07:56 AM	#68
Sk8r RC Mod Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Spokane WA Posts: 34,628 Blog Entries: 55	A person like that would've shot your dog or beat your kid because she was mad at you. Get a gf who's got the moxie and the honesty to take her fight where the fight is, not pick on innocents while your back is turned. You can't ever trust somebody like that, no matter any other qualities. __________________ Sk8r Salinity 1.024-6; alkalinity 8.3-9.3 on KH scale; calcium 420; magnesium 1300, temp 78-80, nitrate .2. Ammonia 0. No filters: lps tank. Alk and cal won't rise if mg is low. Current Tank Info: 105g AquaVim wedge, yellow tang, sailfin blenny,royal gramma, ocellaris clown pair, yellow watchman, 100 microceriths, 25 tiny hermits, a 4" conch, 1" nassarius, recovering from 2 year hiatus with daily water change of 10%.

04/26/2009, 08:11 AM	#70
DgenR8 I'm an American and I remember Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Long Island, New York Posts: 43,992	__________________ “I wish there was a way to know that you were IN the good old days, before leaving them.” ~Andy Bernard Regional Manager, Scranton branch Dunder Mifflin Current Tank Info: Unknown slow drip, over 20 years damaged my house and heating system. No more tank.

04/26/2009, 08:35 AM	#72
Sisterlimonpot R.C. Fraternity President Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Litchfeild Park AZ Posts: 11,490 Blog Entries: 2	And Plus... I think the majority that's following this thread would love to see some pictures. __________________ Jimmy MASVC President Dishes are done man! Current Tank Info: 300 in progress

04/26/2009, 08:35 AM	#73
dc Moderator Emeritus Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Wyoming Posts: 44,684	What are you guys doing in here? __________________ Debi ~60 Cube~ Why? Because I said so of course. -Sent via Tapatalk Smoke Signals-