When family couldn't care less

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 07:03 PM

Hello,does anyone feel like me, frustrated when your Family couldn't care less about the tank( Wife only the money lol)? Have the reef buds but when I'm home it's like "You only care about the tank" lol. Just asking because I hope I'm, not alone or I'm in trouble. Thanks

Angel*Fish · 04/18/2011, 07:22 PM

My ex-husband hated my tank with a passion. You'd have thought I was having an affair or something.

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 07:23 PM

LMAO.Love that

125G Reefer · 04/18/2011, 07:41 PM

Yup. Pretty much. All I usually get is, "And how much did that cost you" "When did you get that?" Yea, I hear ya. I try and do all my mods myself, so its alot cheaper, but that still gets me in hot water. LOL.

Carty · 04/18/2011, 07:45 PM

I haven't posted here much but this thread had me laughing. This stuff happens to me all the time.

"You waste too much money on this tank, how much did cost this time?"
my reply: $0 of your money

Lynnmw1208 · 04/18/2011, 07:47 PM

yeah my husband always thinks it's weird that I sit there staring at my tank for hours. I point things out to him and he's just like "yeah, uh huh".

SushiGirl · 04/18/2011, 07:51 PM

My boyfriend was that way when I used to talk about my old tanks. Figured he would never be interested. Then he thought he'd keep me busy with a 55. A month in & he was hooked and is worse than me!

Sharpie_ · 04/18/2011, 07:52 PM

I've been lucky and started young, everyone can appreciate the beauty and always wants to see whatever is new. I've been seeing the same girl for a few years now and she could care less but knows how important it is to me, the fish were there before her!

roli112 · 04/18/2011, 07:54 PM

Oh man if my fiance new how much money is going into this build... man, don't even want to think about it

carpenterman23 · 04/18/2011, 07:55 PM

HAHA!! I know the feeling also. My wife is always telling my I have a problem, or why did you buy this or do you really need that, or my favorite. "We have to much money in this tank". The last time I checked my tank was done with my side work money and all most everything is used or made myself. But Its all good and still love her at the end of the day (some times)

P.S. She' 5 months pregnant so I'm always in trouble anyway.

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 07:55 PM

Sometimes I wish I could share her passions.......just can't get around buying groceries,light bill, etc.,etc. lol

davocean · 04/18/2011, 07:56 PM

Quote from last girl;
"If we got married I'd be tied to "THAT THING"(pointing shaky finger at tank) forever!"
Yeah, she's gone.
Gotta make sure your significant other is "reef safe".

Angel*Fish · 04/18/2011, 07:58 PM

I've had my protein skimmer sitting in the entry area for 2 weeks waiting to be shipped off for a repair. It's 3 feet high and weird looking. I've had tons of people in and out and not one has asked what it is.

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 08:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Angel*Fish

I've had my protein skimmer sitting in the entry area for 2 weeks waiting to be shipped off for a repair. It's 3 feet high and weird looking. I've had tons of people in and out and not one has asked what it is.

Wild. I hear ya.

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 08:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SushiGirl

My boyfriend was that way when I used to talk about my old tanks. Figured he would never be interested. Then he thought he'd keep me busy with a 55. A month in & he was hooked and is worse than me!

I can only wish.....lol

Baldguy · 04/18/2011, 08:05 PM

Boy does this ring a bell with me!!! Wife just doesn't get it. I'm just getting started and she just rolls her eyes. Oh well. She'll get over it ... I hope.

duncantse · 04/18/2011, 08:10 PM

I'm still in highschool so I don't really have the money to start off a saltwater tank but my Dad loved it. He told me to start researching up on saltwater tanks because he was too lazy to research on its on. So, all the money I spent on the tank was my Dads.

My Mom and sister doesn't even take a look at the tank though.

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 08:27 PM

I'm not alone.lol Thanks for that.lol

Megatrev62 · 04/18/2011, 08:43 PM

Africans got me started and never looked back.lol, Angels (freshwater and might I add nothing that happened for me was sweeter then obtaining pair and all the babies since) Discus was nice too. Never had interest from wife-all those years ago lol(except my son when he was really just a kid-8-12. I cannot live without an aquarium in my home!!!. Salt is my direction and love RC for invaluable info. I know those that hear me. God love ya.
lol

Skinner · 04/18/2011, 10:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Angel*Fish

I've had my protein skimmer sitting in the entry area for 2 weeks waiting to be shipped off for a repair. It's 3 feet high and weird looking. I've had tons of people in and out and not one has asked what it is.

Maybe they think it's a bong!

Lynnmw1208 · 04/18/2011, 10:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Megatrev62

Africans got me started and never looked back.lol, Angels (freshwater and might I add nothing that happened for me was sweeter then obtaining pair and all the babies since) Discus was nice too. Never had interest from wife-all those years ago lol(except my son when he was really just a kid-8-12. I cannot live without an aquarium in my home!!!. Salt is my direction and love RC for invaluable info. I know those that hear me. God love ya.
lol

nice! I was going to do cichlids but decided to skip over that and discus and go for the gold!! lol glad I did though! sooooo much more rewarding! my husband USED to like fish in college, although he had some suicidal fish that got stuck inside his decoration and his roommate thought it would be fun to try and shoot his fish with a pellet gun as we discovered the orange pellets one day :/ maybe his bad experiences turned him off lol

jmacc702 · 04/18/2011, 10:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by davocean

Quote from last girl;
Yeah, she's gone.
Gotta make sure your significant other is "reef safe".

THIS MADE MY DAY!! hahahah absolutely love it! Luckily for me my girlfriend was more than happy to buy an aquarium for me for my birthday as long as she had "a bunch of pretty colors and a "nemo fish"

purge43 · 04/18/2011, 10:58 PM

actually Im kinda glad the wife doesnt take much interest in my reef. #1 we'd spend twice as much money at the lfs and it would still be coming out of my money. #2 Id have something stupid in my tank that I really didnt want. #3 Id have to spend an equal amount of time with her, at her hobby, And I always stick myself with pins and neddles.

thegrun · 04/18/2011, 11:12 PM

Great thread! I ended up leaving the hobby for a number of years when our children were young because of the time requirements and the strain it put on my wife. In hind sight it was a great decision, albeit difficult at the time. I did spend a lot more time with the kids after parting with my tank, wonderful experiences that I wouldn't trade for the world. It has been a great joy to get back into reefing now that the children are grown and through college. I was vindicated when my daughter got her first out of college job working as an aquarist at Birch Aquarium after volunteering there during school.

AmberL · 04/19/2011, 06:01 AM

I always feel terrible when I read about people making fun of their spouses and how they fight and couldn't care less about the interests of the other. Your spouse should be your best friend and be supportive of you and your interests.

04/18/2011, 07:47 PM	#6
Lynnmw1208 Registered Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Brunswick, Ohio Posts: 3,306	yeah my husband always thinks it's weird that I sit there staring at my tank for hours. I point things out to him and he's just like "yeah, uh huh". __________________ equipment: Eshopps psk-200 skimmer, Mag 12 pump, 30gal sump, 2x 300w Finnex heaters, glass-holes 1500gph overflow kit with 3/4" return kits, 72" 8x36w t-5 AquaticLife light, 66lbs of LR, 150lbs of tropic eden reeflakes, 2 Koralia Evo 1400, JBJ ATO, BRS dual GFO/carbon reactors, Hydor smartwave Current Tank Info: 125gallon

04/18/2011, 07:52 PM	#8
Sharpie_ Registered Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Southern Ontario, Canada Posts: 363	I've been lucky and started young, everyone can appreciate the beauty and always wants to see whatever is new. I've been seeing the same girl for a few years now and she could care less but knows how important it is to me, the fish were there before her! __________________ Getting wet since '07. Current Tank Info: 120 Display, 65 Sump, 50 Refugiem, DT is holding 135 lbs of aquarcaultured rock. 400W MH 14,000K XM bulb provides light for a mixed reef.

04/18/2011, 07:54 PM	#9
roli112 Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 298	Oh man if my fiance new how much money is going into this build... man, don't even want to think about it __________________ 180 gallon mixed reef Current Tank Info: 180g. mix reef

04/18/2011, 07:56 PM	#12
davocean Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 14,655	Quote from last girl; "If we got married I'd be tied to "THAT THING"(pointing shaky finger at tank) forever!" Yeah, she's gone. Gotta make sure your significant other is "reef safe". __________________ There's a fine line between owning your tank and your tank owning you! Current Tank Info: SCA 120g RR Starfire, Tunze silence 1073.02 return, 40g sump w/ fuge, SWC Extreme 160 cone skimmer,Geismann reflexx 4xT5, 2x Panorama Pro LED strips, Vortech MP40QD

04/18/2011, 07:58 PM	#13
Angel*Fish cats and large squashes Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Houston Posts: 5,951 Blog Entries: 1	I've had my protein skimmer sitting in the entry area for 2 weeks waiting to be shipped off for a repair. It's 3 feet high and weird looking. I've had tons of people in and out and not one has asked what it is. __________________ Marie So long, & thanks for all the fish! __________________________ Current Tank Info: Pairs: flame angels, cherub angels, Red Sea mimic blennies, yellow fin fairy wrasses, clowns, mandarins, blackcap basslets, shrimp gobies, damsels, dispar anthias, yellow clown gobies, threadfin cardinals --- Tanks: 100g reef, 2 x 30g refugiums

04/18/2011, 07:03 PM	#1
Megatrev62 Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ST.John's Newfoundland Canada Posts: 1,712	When family couldn't care less Hello,does anyone feel like me, frustrated when your Family couldn't care less about the tank( Wife only the money lol)? Have the reef buds but when I'm home it's like "You only care about the tank" lol. Just asking because I hope I'm, not alone or I'm in trouble. Thanks

04/18/2011, 07:22 PM	#2
Angel*Fish cats and large squashes Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Houston Posts: 5,951 Blog Entries: 1	My ex-husband hated my tank with a passion. You'd have thought I was having an affair or something. __________________ Marie So long, & thanks for all the fish! __________________________ Current Tank Info: Pairs: flame angels, cherub angels, Red Sea mimic blennies, yellow fin fairy wrasses, clowns, mandarins, blackcap basslets, shrimp gobies, damsels, dispar anthias, yellow clown gobies, threadfin cardinals --- Tanks: 100g reef, 2 x 30g refugiums

04/18/2011, 07:23 PM	#3
Megatrev62 Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ST.John's Newfoundland Canada Posts: 1,712	LMAO.Love that

04/18/2011, 07:41 PM	#4
125G Reefer Moved On Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Glendale,AZ Posts: 913	Yup. Pretty much. All I usually get is, "And how much did that cost you" "When did you get that?" Yea, I hear ya. I try and do all my mods myself, so its alot cheaper, but that still gets me in hot water. LOL.

04/18/2011, 07:45 PM	#5
Carty Registered Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Atlanta Posts: 23	I haven't posted here much but this thread had me laughing. This stuff happens to me all the time. "You waste too much money on this tank, how much did cost this time?" my reply: $0 of your money

04/18/2011, 07:51 PM	#7
SushiGirl Premium Member Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Fort Worth, TX USA Posts: 8,267	My boyfriend was that way when I used to talk about my old tanks. Figured he would never be interested. Then he thought he'd keep me busy with a 55. A month in & he was hooked and is worse than me!

04/18/2011, 07:55 PM	#10
carpenterman23 Registered Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 181	HAHA!! I know the feeling also. My wife is always telling my I have a problem, or why did you buy this or do you really need that, or my favorite. "We have to much money in this tank". The last time I checked my tank was done with my side work money and all most everything is used or made myself. But Its all good and still love her at the end of the day (some times) P.S. She' 5 months pregnant so I'm always in trouble anyway.

04/18/2011, 08:05 PM	#16
Baldguy Registered Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ft Worth Posts: 296	Boy does this ring a bell with me!!! Wife just doesn't get it. I'm just getting started and she just rolls her eyes. Oh well. She'll get over it ... I hope.

04/18/2011, 08:10 PM	#17
duncantse Fish Advisor Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 1,604	I'm still in highschool so I don't really have the money to start off a saltwater tank but my Dad loved it. He told me to start researching up on saltwater tanks because he was too lazy to research on its on. So, all the money I spent on the tank was my Dads. My Mom and sister doesn't even take a look at the tank though.

04/18/2011, 08:27 PM	#18
Megatrev62 Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ST.John's Newfoundland Canada Posts: 1,712	I'm not alone.lol Thanks for that.lol

04/18/2011, 08:43 PM	#19
Megatrev62 Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ST.John's Newfoundland Canada Posts: 1,712	Africans got me started and never looked back.lol, Angels (freshwater and might I add nothing that happened for me was sweeter then obtaining pair and all the babies since) Discus was nice too. Never had interest from wife-all those years ago lol(except my son when he was really just a kid-8-12. I cannot live without an aquarium in my home!!!. Salt is my direction and love RC for invaluable info. I know those that hear me. God love ya. lol

04/18/2011, 10:58 PM	#23
purge43 Registered Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: philadelphia, pa Posts: 435	actually Im kinda glad the wife doesnt take much interest in my reef. #1 we'd spend twice as much money at the lfs and it would still be coming out of my money. #2 Id have something stupid in my tank that I really didnt want. #3 Id have to spend an equal amount of time with her, at her hobby, And I always stick myself with pins and neddles.

04/18/2011, 11:12 PM	#24
thegrun Registered Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Garden Grove, Ca Posts: 17,023	Great thread! I ended up leaving the hobby for a number of years when our children were young because of the time requirements and the strain it put on my wife. In hind sight it was a great decision, albeit difficult at the time. I did spend a lot more time with the kids after parting with my tank, wonderful experiences that I wouldn't trade for the world. It has been a great joy to get back into reefing now that the children are grown and through college. I was vindicated when my daughter got her first out of college job working as an aquarist at Birch Aquarium after volunteering there during school.

04/19/2011, 06:01 AM	#25
AmberL Registered Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 205	I always feel terrible when I read about people making fun of their spouses and how they fight and couldn't care less about the interests of the other. Your spouse should be your best friend and be supportive of you and your interests. __________________ ~Amber Current Tank Info: 90 gallon reef tank; 2 clowns; Midas blenny; diamond goby; CUC; sand sifting star fish; torch; green star polyps; green plate; brain coral; finger leather; cleaner shrimp; porcelain crab; daisy coral

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